Where Is Your Point of Focus?
“It is impossible to continue to create negative results in your life and do it consciously.”
Not so very long ago I would have argued vehemently with this or any other similar statement. In spite of my best efforts I still developed Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia and endured chemotherapy; I still went through an embarrassing and humiliating bankruptcy; I still got dragged through a devastating divorce.
In spite of my BEST efforts!
Nobody in their right mind consciously would choose any one of these dreaded life disasters, let alone all three like I did. Can you believe it – those rich book-tape-and-seminar- selling gurus had the nerve to tell me that I ‘chose‘ my catastrophes. Easy for them to say; none of them had to endure what I went through!
Even Dr. Bob (as I affectionately refer to Dr. Robert Anthony) agrees that nobody in their right mind chooses their misfortunes.
I was so happy to see that at least one of the experts finally agreed with me.
All that stuff about Law of Attraction is just a big pile of crap, right?
I had been doing all that positive thinking hocus-pocus for decades.
- I set my goals.
- I did my affirmations.
- You name it, I did it.
- Everything!
- At least twice!
It helps that I was born with a very healthy dose of persistence; you might even call it stubbornness.
Whatever.
Every day I would wake up feeling like Bill Murray in “Groundhog Day”, having to endure yet another wretched day.
I found myself returning to Dr. Bob because I enjoyed his writing style. I could understand him. He seemed to be speaking directly to me.
One day I was re-reading for the 1000th time a passage from his material when it hit me, “It is impossible to continue to create negative results in your life and do it…
CONSCIOUSLY“…
Ah, the magic word!
The ‘Disclaimer‘.
Or was it? Upon closer scrutiny of my personal travails, here is what I came to realize:
I wasn’t crazy… debatable to some perhaps, but I like to think of myself as sane.
Furthermore, I wasn’t choosing my disasters consciously. But I WAS doing it UNCONSCIOUSLY! It was so easy to do, running my life on auto pilot. Here’s how I did it:
Consciously I thought I wanted to make a lot of money.
Unconsciously I was constantly worrying about all the bills I had to pay; cussing about the futility of making more because the government would just increase my tax liability; and besides, in order to make as much money as I thought I wanted, I’d have to KILL myself working to get it.
Did I say kill myself?
Consciously I thought I wanted good health and exercised fairly regularly while eating a reasonable diet.
Unconsciously, I did fall into the 7-day/80-hour work week trap for a couple of years.
When I found that method of ‘killing myself’ a bit too slow, I added the subconscious program, “I’d do ANYTHING to get out of this marriage!” (stage direction: Cue the Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia.)
Do you see what was happening here? While I was saying one thing – rather loudly and obnoxiously at times – I was doing and feeling anything but! While I was saying I wanted health, wealth and great relationships, I was forever focused – STUCK, if you will – on trying to get away from all the stuff in my life that I didn’t want.
I was a total victim, blaming anyone and anything for all my misfortunes.
In spite of my best efforts, my life continued to plummet.
And that was another problem. My best thinking kept getting me into trouble. As Einstein said, “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”
However, very slowly over time I started changing the way I looked at things and seemingly miraculously, the things I looked at changed.
Pay very close attention now, because here – in a nutshell – is the essence of ‘The Secret‘. Your focus triggers your feelings. Your feelings are the ‘attractor factor‘, ordering from the Universe to bring you MORE of what you focus upon. As Dr. Bob points out, “The things you want, you get. The things you don’t want, you get! The Universe simply delivers what you focus on.”
This is no ‘New Age’ nonsense, either. Even ancient wisdom such as the Bible speaks of this in passages such as, “Take heed therefore how ye hear: for whosoever hath, to him shall be given; and whosoever hath not, from him shall be taken even that which he seemeth to have.” Luke 1-18 The King James Version, (Cambridge) 1769.
In today’s parlance, “The rich get richer while the poor get poorer.”
Remember this simple formula:
Focus = Feelings = Attraction = Wish Granted/ Prayer Answered
In order to remake my life, I made a list of things that I wanted in my ideal relationship. I mean, I included as many things I could think of including height, age, ethnicity, personality and character traits… you name it. Mind you, it took five years to manifest from the first day I planted that seed of an idea, but today I enjoy the ultimate relationship. Plus I got a bonus of two lovely step-daughters included in the deal.
That seemed to give my will to live a great deal of impetus and my health slowly began to improve. Today, my blood tests are improving to the point where soon I can consider myself cured!
As for the money, I am embarking on a new career where I look forward to doing what I love every day. And you know what they say, “Do what you love and the money will follow.”
Dr. Bob says, “As soon as you become really consciously aware of what you are focusing on then all that stuff that doesn’t serve you falls away.”
While it’s much easier said than done (trust me, I’m STILL working on it myself) do whatever you can to get focused and STAY focused on the things you say you want. You’ll know you are on the right track by the way you feel. If it feels good, keep doing it. And if it doesn’t feel good, change your focus… FAST!
I hope you’re beginning to understand why I end every post with “Until the next time, no matter what your emotions, Love That Feeling!“ 
