Practice Better Feelings

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It doesn’t feel good to feel bad.

“No, duh Russy!”

Not only doesn’t it feel good to feel bad, the problem is compounded when I know I contributed to others not feeling good about themselves.

I know. I’ve read all the books that tell you, “Nobody can MAKE you feel anything. You, and you alone are responsible for whatever goes on inside yourself.”

I tell you, I know this.

That doesn’t mean I always apply it. But I know this.

I also know that others may not have the same level of knowing that I have. Therefore, for all they know I can - and do – tick them off.

Maggie knows that I know.

She also knows for herself.

The difference between her and me is that she really tries to use her knowledge to create peace and harmony. She’s got the application part down cold. That’s why she makes a tremendous counselor.

Me? I’m more of a scientist – I like to play ‘What would happen if…”

Well most of my experiments over the past few days have literally blown up in my face. A few wrong words here. An arrogant and uncooperative attitude there. Throw in a bunch of escape/withdrawal behavior (recall “I quit!“) and VOILA…

FIREWORKS!

But…

Like Edison, I now know many more ways that DON’T work. I would never have known these things if I didn’t experiment. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right.

And thanks to Maggie’s amazing skill, tact and diplomacy, this story actually moves toward a more positive resolution eventually. We’ll cover this more in our next installment.

…to be continued

This time, no “Duhn, Duhn, DDDuuuhhhnnn!”