“I love you, Honey!” my gorgeous wife tells me, oh at least 10 times a day. Along with the many other ways she ‘speaks’ to me in the various languages of love, I count myself as one of the most fortunate and blessed men on the planet.
Ah, to love and be loved. I love that feeling, don’t you?
That’s what this blog is all about, learning to experience more of the feelings of love.
Now lest you think this is all about relationships… well, you could be right. That is if you consider:
- Loving feelings and your relationship with health;
- Loving feelings and your relationship with finances;
- Loving feelings and your relationship with inner peace;
- and yes, loving feelings and your relationship with other people.
You see, even though we’ve been told that ‘love is all there is’ throughout the ages, many of us – myself included – often forget that we hold the key to instantly transform the darkest of situations into a better feeling one.
“Yeah, right buddy!”, I hear you say. “You don’t know MY situation!”
You know, I’ve said that so many times myself over my five and a half decades on this planet. In fact, I would actually get pretty worked up when someone offered me such ‘nonsense’ because MY situation was different, too! 
Well, a healthy dose of skepticism is good. After all, you don’t know me so why should you believe anything I say?
Surprisingly, my answer to that is, “You shouldn’t!”
All I can offer you is the wisdom I’ve gained over my 55+ years of life, a lot of it spent feeling anything but love, and many other times even resisting love when it was throwing itself at me. How crazy is that?
Actually, it DID get pretty crazy at times.
- From my mid 20′s until about age 40 I struggled to find my inner peace because of some adverse religious beliefs I held since early childhood.
- At age 45 I was diagnosed with chronic lymphocytic leukemia with a prognosis that I probably wouldn’t live to see my 60th birthday.
- At 47, I declared personal bankruptcy.
- At 52, I separated and eventually divorced, ending my first marriage of 23 years.
See, I told you my situation was different!
Now, as if all those things weren’t bad enough, the real problem was that during the darkest times when all I wanted to do was die… I just kept waking up again the next day, having to face it all over again!
In every situation where I found myself lying face-down in the mud, ultimately I was forced to make a decision. I could either stay there sucking mud, or… I could get up!
For me, getting up ALWAYS felt better than sucking mud. It took me a long time – 50+ years! in fact – to realize that I always had the power to choose a better feeling. Mind you, it usually took me a while to get cleaned up. I certainly didn’t go from total despair to ecstacy in a single bound. Superman I’m not! And as I mentioned earlier, I could easily ‘forget’ that I forever had the power to choose, thinking it easier to blame someone or something outside of myself.
I’ll let you in on a little secret right now… I’m STILL working on my own process of growth and development. If anything, this blog is really for me. The old saying, “We teach what we need to learn,” definitely applies here.
Here’s what I’ve learned so far. Hindsight being 20/20 of course, I learned that I never had to get down in the mud at all. For sure, knowing what I know now, I certainly wouldn’t have stayed face-down in the mud as long as I did at certain times of my life.
But you know what, I also learned to love those ‘challenging times’, too. They made me feel pretty lousy which, as we’ll discuss in future posts, is a GREAT THING to be aware of. You’ve heard about people turning lemons into lemonade? Well, it’s true and being aware of the way you feel is THE #1 SOLUTION to ALL of your problems. Trust me!
The discomfort you feel is actually moving you to seek a better way! “Seek and ye shall find.”
- In my spiritual quest, I did find my inner peace and today I enjoy a very strong, direct connection with my source.
- Health wise, my white blood cell count miraculously continues to decline, much to the delight and even more to the surprise of my doctors.
- As for my love life, I am remarried to an absolutely gorgeous woman – and I mean that in every sense of the word. My wife Maggie (pictured above) is gorgeous both inside and out. I also have two beautiful step-daughters who, like their mom, literally throw love at me every second we’re together.
- As I’m currently in a career transition, my finances aren’t quite where I’d like them to be at this time, but the future is looking very promising indeed.
So like the song says, “Three out of four ain’t bad!”
OK, you caught me… it’s “Two Out of Three Ain’t Bad!”
But hey, speaking of songs, you’ll want to check out the other parts of this website where there is a huge and ever growing collection of some of the best love songs of all time. It’s a compilation I started for my wife this past Valentine’s Day and it has since taken on a life of it’s own. Music is a very powerful stimulant and I hope as you listen, you will truly ‘Love That Feeling‘.
In upcoming posts we’ll talk more about how you can always choose better feelings, including these topics:
- What love language do you speak? The different languages of love and how being ‘multi-lingual’ might save your relationships… in ALL areas of your life!
- The colors of emotions; have you ever heard of being green with envy; seeing red when you’re angry; being a yellow- bellied coward… are they for real?
- Emotional Suicide: Did you know that your emotions and the biochemical reactions they trigger in your body could be hazardous to your health?
I hope you got to know me a little bit better in this introductory post. For the most part, I plan on writing directly from my own personal experiences, so you can be sure that you’ll learn more about me… maybe even more than you care to know.
Until the next time, no matter what your emotions, Love That Feeling!
