Do We Really Need Free Relationship Advice?
What free relationship advice would you give to Jon and Kate?
Jon and Kate – seems like everyone on the planet is following the drama, whether or not we watch it on TV. With so many opinions, I’m sure the infamous couple have received more than their fair share of free relationship advice.
- Was this relationship doomed from the start?
- Are they now seeking divorce because they exposed their relationship on TV and were ill-prepared to deal with the notoriety?
- Or is this simply some twisted marketing ploy to beat more cash from this dead-horse of a relationship?
If you saw Jon and Kate today, what kind of free relationship advice would you give them?
Now before you get all cranked up, first think about all the free relationship advice you’ve received in the past and remember how you felt about it. Hhhmmm…
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I was 18 years old and feeling the pangs of love ripping through my stomach and chest. The free relationship advice, delivered expeditiously by my mom was, “What do you want with a girl friend anyway? You have school and work to focus on?”
Ten years later, this same woman – my mom – had the nerve to ask me when I was going to get married! The only problem was, I didn’t have the personal self-confidence nor the social skills to even get a date. Again, I got an earful of free relationship advice.
However, by age thirty I had finally found someone who agreed to tie the knot with me. All was well for the first three years.
Suddenly, life changed dramatically as my wife at the time was diagnosed with Schizophrenia. She heard voices, saw images and talked to them all the time. For the next 19 years I acted as caretaker, carting my wife to various doctors and experimental treatments, mostly with ineffectual results.
During those years, what do you think was the predominant free relationship advice I received? “Why do you stay with her? She’s not getting any better. She’s only going to bring you down.”
After 22 years, we finally did get a divorce. My former wife chose not to comply with her meds and treatment. Who can blame her – nothing worked anyway. However, I knew I couldn’t live with someone who refused to even try to help herself.
Should I have listened to all the free relationship advice and terminated our marriage sooner? I think not, because then the timing would have been all messed up for Maggie and I getting together. You see, Maggie was dealing with her own divorce and abuse issues from a later common-law relationship.
In the end, everything eventually worked out for the best… as it always does.
With or Without Your Free Relationship Advice
Having each been through difficult divorces ourselves, Maggie and I would hesitate to offer Jon and Kate any free relationship advice because we really don’t know what would be best for them. From the looks of it, apparently Jon and Kate don’t know that either.
And isn’t that the way it usually goes? We fight our way through life’s experiences only to discover some time later that this “problem” was exactly what we needed at the time to reach a better place.
Nowadays my mom’s free relationship advice seems to make more sense to me as she says, “Live one day at a time, knowing that everything always works out for the best.”
The value of free relationship advice like that? Priceless!
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